I wrote a few weeks ago about my desire to get back into writing and that my mum had recently gone into a care home. I’ve hopefully reset my expectations and habits to allow this.

What I probably hadn’t made clear before this, is how much my mum had had an influence on Age Life Balance in the first place. This is not something that I’ve shared on here before and is not something that she’s aware of either.

She used to read my blogs, well some of them anyway. She doesn’t now. She doesn’t have access to emails at the moment. I’ve also removed her from my mailing list…

So time for a real reset.

I feel this will allow me to be more open, more candid in what I say. And hopefully this will be more useful and relevant to the Age Life Balance audience too.


Key influences

One of my main drivers behind Age Life Balance is to learn more about why different people age in such different ways. Why some people live rich, full lives until their 80s, 90s and even beyond. And others just don’t, encountering a variety of problems much earlier on in their lives.

How we age is said to be 25% genetic and 75% lifestyle related. Well the lifestyle part is something that I’m very conscious of and am trying to influence within my own life, as well as others lives too. Hopefully you’ve already got a flavour of that through my Age Life Balance blogs.

The genetic part is of great interest to me too. My parents are both exactly the same age – fast approaching 77 – they were born 6 days apart. Yet they’ve aged in such different ways.


My mum has long considered herself to be both old and disabled. Long before she actually was. In fact, she’s used both of these terms in regular conversation since around the time of first hip replacement operation in her late 50s. Sadly over time she has become both old and disabled – badges she almost used to wear with pride. It must be hard, however, for her to see that not all others have aged in the same way, including a number of her friends.


My dad however, more resembles a teenager, albeit an ageing one. He is still young at heart, as well as in mind and body. He continues to work hard, despite retiring over 20 years ago. He still does things to regularly stretch his mind and his body. But much of this is sub-coconscious rather than by design. He’s just been living out his life.


Now, genetics does indeed seem to play a role as we heard above. My dad is from fairly long-lived stock – he had 2 aunts that reached 100 and 99 respectively, although they understandably deteriorated towards the end of their lives.

Mum, however, frequently makes references to her surprise that she and her siblings are still alive, as they’ve all outlived their parents now. The others are both in considerably better nick than her at this point – one being 3 years older and the older 3 years younger.

Above all, though, I actually think that mindset may trump everything else.

Age Life Balance Reset

The pandemic and all that’s come with it has influenced many resets. Age Life Balance is no different.

Over the coming weeks and months, I’ll be sharing more of my parents’ stories, as well as my own ageing journey. At 45 years of age, I am no longer young and sadly not getting any younger. I am not ageist, anti-ageing or trying to halt my own ageing process. Yet I am very conscious of being the best version of me now and for the future. For my sake, as well as for my loved ones. I’ve witnessed and experienced the burden and stress that this can have on others and I’ll do what I can to avoid this.

Once thing I don’t want to reset is my vision:

I want to live a long, satisfying, purposeful and financially free life and to encourage others to do the same.

I’ll be alternating topics – my story, my parents, preventative things I do and some guest articles too. I hope this proves interesting, useful and inspirational too.


Thank you for reading! For more on Age Life Balance, browse the blog at www.agelifebalance.com to find out more.